Professional Development

7 - The Child
If we go more deeply into the status of Child ego or the Child mode, we say that this deals with recordings of internal events, unlike that of the Parent (remember that in the Parent these were external). The Child component comprises recordings of internal events (feelings) which are produced as responses to external events, the majority of these in early childhood, coming from mother and father and progressively from adults and other relations which the child establishes. This process also takes place between birth and the age of five, although it should be highlighted that recent experiments oblige us to be very careful with establishing such time limits. It appears that we can record feelings before birth and, of course, we continue to record in our Child component after the age of five.During the defenseless stage there are an infinite number of complete and inflexible experiences which weigh on the growing child: on one hand, they experience a series of very urgent needs, genetic recordings; and on the other, there are the constant demands of the adults who surround them, beginning with their parents, for them to give up those basic satisfactions in exchange for the reward of parental approval. This progressive socialization process is very painful, so much so that if we had to go through it as adults we would not do it. This process generates negative sentiments; from this we all develop a certain aversion to reprimands, some discomfort with displeasure shown by those that surround us, etc. However, we do also record positive experiences. So, the Child component in each of us also includes positive contents; what is more, the states of happiness that we experience in our childhood stay with us forever.